Reality Check!
He provides, protects, and does what he should do by society’s standards as a husband. People tell you ‘You are lucky to have a man like him. ’ You smile and say, ‘I know right?’ But deep down you know there is a hollowness, something that is missing in your marriage. Something that was not even there as you were dating. Your relationship was borne out of ‘I am ready to date for marriage.’ He was ready, and so were you. You did not cultivate the friendship, the easiness, the goofiness, you did not experience his lightness. Because you were desperate to finally ‘ my husband’ to your aunties from the mountain who have been asking you ‘Chomi, where is your husband?’ He on the other hand was just from an 8-year relationship, his father was ailing from old age. His last wish was he could see the girl you will marry and there you were. Perfect to his eyes. You ticked all his boxes. A young graduate, with beautiful light skin with childbearing hips (because Nigerian men love those o...